Is there anything more difficult than trying to date your friends? Friends dating is as complicated at trying to make mud pies with jello. Still…it’s obvious that people are doing this, risks be damned. Today I’m taking a look at the pros and cons of dating your friends.
Pro: You already know what their baggage is. This is key, no surprises, you know what they are about and you can go into this with open eyes.
Con: There is very little mystery. Because of the above, a lot of the courting and getting to know each other has already been done, this can make things feel a bit to “normal” right off the top.
Pro: Years or months of built up sexual tension. Hell yeah!
Con: Too much hype can make for a rather lousy let down. Especially since sometimes people talk themselves up to their friends since they think they will never be sleeping with them anyway.
Pro: Good communication. You already know how to talk to each other, this works out well when it comes to relationships.
Con: Sometimes who a person is as a friend, can be very different than who they are as a romantic partner. Finding this out can be good or bad, usually bad.
Pro: You don’t have to be all nervous about meeting the folks, chances are you already know them.
Con: Pressure. If you’ve already met the folks and have known your friend for years, sometimes the pressure is on to make a pretty big commitment early on. This is especially true if your friend likes you better than you like them.
Pro: You don’t have to be too self conscious. If you’ve been friends for more than a year, your friend probably knows what you look like in a bathing suit and isn’t bothered by your jiggly bits.
Con: They could get lazy in the bedroom fast. If both of you don’t “feel” like giving foreplay it’s proper focus before the main event, chances are, the chemistry is going to fizzle fast.
Pro: Respect. Unlike some random person on an online dating site, you know your friend is going to respect your boundaries and you’ll respect theirs. Even if the romance doesn’t last, things most likely won’t end with bad fights, trash talking or keyed cars.
At the end of the day, if you feel a stronger connection growing between you and a friend and both of you are single, what do you have to lose? A good friendship? Not if you’re respectful and caring in how you wade into the romance waters. Keep things honest and you could end up being out of the dating scene for good.
