If you’re one of the lucky one’s who have found love and kept it for a while, good for you. Still, even the most beautiful flowers become background if you see them every day. It’s hard to remember how you felt when you first met that special someone. Here are a few tips on how to keep it fresh with the one you’re dating.
So you’ve recognized that the bloom is off the rose of your romance. Good, welcome to reality. Here’s another reality check that may or may not surprise you: relationships take work. Yah, boo, I know. Sad but true. The good news is you’ve already found this blog, so you’re aware you need help. So, lets get right to it.
Here’s how you can save yourself and your significant other from the
dating ho hums.
Tip one: Space.
It seems counterintuitive but often the best way to reconnect as a couple, is to get some space from one another. If all you ever do is hang out, watch tv or go out together, you’re not going to have anything to talk about. You both need some breathing room. Take a day of the week and make it yours and hers anti-date night.
Tip two: Special time.
You know when you two were first together and you went on DATES? It’s time to revamp that idea and bring it back like a pro. Get involved in a project with your match. Think, what did she put for her favorite activities on her online dating profile (if that’s how you met)? Was it…cooking? Or hiking? Whatever it was, remind her (or him) and start planning activities around those things. You guys can cook a new dish together, or hike somewhere special. Keep searching all the time for new and exciting things to do.
Tip three: get with other couples (no, not like THAT).
A great way to keep the conversation going is to go out (or invite in) other friends and couples. Nothing sparks the heat like a good debate on a fresh issues. You can talk about that funny video on shit girls say. Sometimes this can bring in a little competition as well, which isn’t a bad thing.
Tip four: Get a life!
Yes, I said it and usually it’s true. How many do you know who suffer from “new girlfriend (or boyfriend) syndrome”? Chances are you’ve been ignoring your passions as well and that is no good. Your partner was attracted to you because of who you are and your passions. Time to get back into them. Feel free to invite the person you’re dating in to watch, but don’t make it an “us” thing.
At the end of the day, things are never going to feel brand new and that’s ok. If you continue to work on your relationship, things will eventually feel even better than new. They’ll feel real. Loving someone properly means knowing them really well and also not taking them for granted. If you use the tips above, you should be able to do just that.
